Filipino Mom Shares Story on How to Raise a Kid With High EQ
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Filipino Mom Reveals What It's Like to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Kid

Filipino Mom Reveals How She Raised an Emotionally Intelligent Child

When dealing with emotions, the common yet meaningful question that comes to mind is, “When is it okay not to be okay?”

Admitting you’re not okay is always the first step to treating ourselves kindly and understanding that it’s alright to feel whatever emotions we go through. But for toddlers, emotions and impulses are common since they’re learning the concept of self-control. Although these abilities can be learned as kids grow older, it is still essential for parents to make a significant emotional investment in their children for them to become emotionally intelligent.

The Beat Asia had a fun and meaningful talk with Jonisa Padernos, a Filipino mom of two kids, originally from Talisay, Metro Cebu, but now residing in Prince George, British Columbia, Canada.

Jonisa proved that there is a unique and profound emotional bond that exists between a mother and child. Last March 29, Jonisa shared a heartfelt “bedtime conversation” video of her and her four-year-old son Aldie, which garnered praise and positive comments online. As of writing, the video has more than 300,000 views, 18,000 likes, 900 comments, and counting.

The video showed how well the toddler beautifully communicated his emotions. He explained to his mom how he would allow himself to feel upset and angry, then work through those emotions by “making a smart choice” to feel better again.

Jonisa revealed that she did not expect that their video would go viral, as she posted it for the sake of “good vibes.” Since Aldie was still a baby, she has been uploading random videos on Instagram and TikTok.

The fact that many people appreciate their son’s ability to communicate his feelings well is a heartwarming experience for them as parents because their efforts and patience in raising Aldie were acknowledged.

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Kid

Books are a no-brainer in terms of sources of knowledge. Parenting books can be especially useful for first-time parents who are trying to learn more about their child’s behavior, strengths, and needs. However, Jonisa is not the kind to read parenting manuals; just like many things in life, she would rather “wing it!”

Growing up, Jonisa didn’t build a close relationship with her father, who worked as a seafarer back then. But she knew her dad had to work to support them, so she couldn’t blame him for sacrificing his time and being away from the family. There was a time when she couldn’t even recognize him when he returned because video calls were not common back then.

“I think ‘yun talaga [yung ayaw ko mangyari sa mga anak ko], kaya sabi ko sa husband na kahit ano mangyari parang ‘all for one, one for all’ tayo. Kung sa’n ang isa, dun din ang isa. Walang maiiwan.”

(I think that's really [what I don't want to happen to my children], so I told my husband that no matter what happens, we are like 'all for one, one for all.' There is always the other one present wherever one is. No one will be left behind).

During the interview, Jonisa said she was focused more on “changing” this cycle within her own family. At present, Aldie is now in preschool, which he attends twice a week with a two-and-a-half-hour class daily.

As a mom, Jonisa knows that letting Aldie interact with other kids sometimes is also a big help for his well-being. She admitted, however, that they were kind of hesitant at first, as they wanted to be with him always and watch him closely, that’s why they never thought of enrolling Aldie in nursery school before.

Apart from forming a strong bond with her kids, she wants her children to know that having a “voice” in the family matters. She started to foster her child’s emotional intelligence by simply letting them talk and reflect about how their day went.

“[F]or example, aalis kami, pero di pa siya nakaka-talk nun, tapos every time pagbalik namin ng bahay [at] nandito ‘yung papa nya, talagang ine-encourage ko siya [na], ’Oh, sabihin mo sa papa mo ano [‘yung] ginawa natin. Ano [yung] nakita mo.’ Tapos tina-try nya, pina-process niya kung ano ‘yung ginawa namin kanina, parang iniisip niya. Feel ko ‘yun yung nakaka-help… At the end of the day, kasi gusto kong i-recall nya ‘yung nangyari earlier para [masanay] ‘yung memory nya, yung brain nya.”

(For example, we're going outside, but during that time he cannot speak well yet, then every time we go back home [and] his dad is there, I really encourage him [to] ’Oh, tell papa, what did we do? What [did] you see?’ Then he will try to remember what we did earlier. I feel like that really helps... At the end of the day, I want him to recall what happened earlier to [stimulate] his memory, his brain).

When asked about her “self-taught parenting skill,” Jonisa said raising Aldie to be an emotionally intelligent kid is not something that can be accomplished overnight. She revealed that it was a lengthy process before Aldie could recognize his emotions and empathize with others.

“Talagang it takes a long time para ma-achieve ‘yun. Kahit ngayon, meron pa ring times na nahihirapan siya. [P]ero at least, you know, na-e-express niya. Wag niyong i-label, [parang] kung ano tingin [mo as a parent], [hindi ibig sabihin na] ‘yun na ‘yung nararamdaman niya. Dapat i-encourage mo na i-describe ‘yung feelings nila. Even though hindi pa sila [nakakapagsalita] or even can’t form words, they can say yes or nod to agree and give them choices, [like] are you sad? Are you mad?”

(It really takes a long time to achieve that. Even now, there are still times when he struggles [with his emotions]. But at least, you know, he tries to speak up. Don't label [their emotions], if that is what you believe [as a parent], [it] doesn’t necessarily mean you’re always right. Even though they haven't [been able to talk] or even if they can't form words, they can say yes or nod to agree and give them choices, [like] are you sad? Are you mad?)

Now that Aldie is four years old, he can thoughtfully express his feelings. He can tell whether someone is upset in the family simply by observing their facial expressions. He was the sunshine of the family, always ready with a joke or a made-up humorous story to brighten his parents' day. Just like most parents, Jonisa is also a proud mom because of Aldie.

“Mabait talaga siya, may moments lang talaga na naghahanap ng atensyon kasi bata. Pero very sensitive siya sa surroundings, sa mga taong nakapalibot sa kaniya . Hindi matapos-tapos magsalita ‘tong batang ‘to. [M]insan gagawa-gawa na siya ng story para lang may ma-chika siya.”

(He is incredibly kind, although there are moments when he's seeking for attention simply because he's a kid. But he's very sensitive to his surroundings, to the people around him. This boy never stops talking. [Sometimes] he would make up a story just to have a chit-chat.)

‘Children Are Like Little Sponges’ 

Scientifically speaking, children’s brains develop faster than any other parts of their body throughout the first five years.

“Children, especially in the early years, are like little sponges, absorbing all the information around them and then actively making sense of it,” University of East London Professor of Early Childhood at the Cass School of Education and Communities Dr. Eva Lloyd said in a report by Theirworld in 2018.

In the same breath, Jonisa agrees! Based on her experience and observation, kids absorb what their caregivers or parents do and say, describing Aldie as a reflection of herself in the mirror.

“[K]asi minsan si Aldie sinasabihan ako. Like, for example, ’That’s okay, mama, we all make mistakes,’ so parang [ako], ’Sinabi ko ‘yun sayo ah? Tapos ngayon sinasabi mo na sakin’ parang ganun. If you want ‘yung kids mo [maging] aware sila sa emotions nila, kailangan din as a parent, be honest din kung anong nafe-feel mo.”

(Aldie would sometimes remind me. Like, for example, [he will say] ’That's okay, mama, we all make mistakes,’ so [I] was like, ’I told you that, right? Then now you're telling me [those words].’ If you want your kids [to be] aware of their emotions, it's also necessary for you as a parent to be honest about how you feel.)

Her family makes it a habit to remind each other to “stop, breathe, and make a smart choice” when one feels mad. It inspired her to communicate more often with her kids and accept that nobody’s perfect. They don’t particularly have high expectations for Aldie, as he is just four years old, nor do they compare him to other children his age, but they were amazed that he can articulate his emotions in a healthy way.

Terrible Twos?

The term “terrible twos” is perceived as an observed behavior among two-year-old children because they tend to change moods rapidly, meaning tantrums are likely common during this phase of development.

With Aldie, Jonisa is proud to say he did not undergo that phase because he is a “very expressive kid.” Nonetheless, the key is open communication and patience.

“Communicate lang talaga with the kids. Give them enough space, don’t rush, be patient. It doesn’t take overnight; it takes a lot of patience and a lot of meltdowns din. Pero believe it or not, si Aldie noon, hindi ko maalala talaga na nag-tantrums siya kasi very expressive talaga siya na kid. Hindi siya ever nag-meltdown. I feel na more challenging, nung nag-three siya kasi nagka-baby kami ulit. Parang may change kasi, yung attention hindi na sa kanya lahat. Dun talaga nag-change, so dun kami medyo nahirapan. Pero we’re slowly learning lahat kami nagle-learn while navigating this, you know, family of four na from family of three.”

(All you must do is communicate with the kids. Give them enough space, don't rush, be patient. It doesn't happen overnight; it takes a lot of patience and a lot of meltdowns, too. But believe it or not, I don't really remember Aldie throwing tantrums back then because he is a very expressive kid. He never had a meltdown. I felt parenting was more challenging when he turned three because we welcomed our second child. There seems to be a change [because] the attention is no longer focused solely on him. But we're slowly learning; we're all learning while navigating this, you know, growing to a family of four from a family of three.)

Motherhood, Postpartum Depression

While it’s true that being a parent is rewarding as you watch your kid’s life blossom through the years, it is also a fact that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. There will be moments when the monotony of your daily life and the weight of your responsibilities can feel like they're sucking the life out of you.

As a first-time mom to Aldie, Jonisa was not spared from the baby blues, commonly referred to as postpartum depression. New moms may go through a whirlwind of emotions after giving birth due to a sudden drop in hormone levels.

Jonisa shared that she experienced crying spells because she lacked sleep and couldn’t properly use the bathroom because Aldie easily woke up at the slightest noise and movement. She also suffered from mastitis – a painful inflammation in the breast caused by an infection due to a clogged milk duct, leading to a warm, red, wedge-shaped breast lump.

Although that experience was excruciating, Jonisa admitted that she somehow missed those moments and that she would change her outlook by making the most of it rather than wallowing in misery. As for her second baby, Amelie, she’s wiser and more relaxed as she has already experienced rearing a newborn.

“[Sa] second baby, sabi ko nga natuto na ‘ko. Kung ‘di siya matulog, ayaw ko pilitin. Pero nahirapan [din] ako sa pag-look after two kids from one. Parang very big adjustment sa’kin. May konting mom rage ‘yung feeling ko noon…pero naging okay naman after a while.”

(As I've mentioned before, by the time I had my second child, I had matured and learned [my lesson]. If she doesn’t want to sleep, I won't force her to. But I [also] had a hard time looking after two kids from one. It seems like a very big adjustment to me. I felt a little mom rage at the time… but I became okay after a while.)

Mother’s Day Celebration

As a growing family, Jonisa and her husband make sure that their bond is always strong and very tight. They are the kind of family who enjoys their own intimate group and would love to celebrate special events inside the serene confines of their home.

While Jonisa would prefer something simple for Mother's Day, it's probable that her husband will prepare his own spin on steak for the occasion.

“Wala naman masyadong fancy. Usually, ‘yung husband ko nagluluto ng special steak. Mga pagkain na special. Dito lang sa bahay…kasi ‘di kami outgoing masyado na [family]. May sarili kaming comfort zone kasi gusto namin ‘yung peaceful lang, meron kaming maliit na circle. So yeah, kami kami lang.”

(Nothing too fancy. Usually, my husband cooks a special steak. Foods that are special. Just here at home… because we're not an outgoing [type of family]. We have our own comfort zone because we want a peaceful ambiance, [and] we have a small circle. So yeah, it's just us.)

Parenting Advice

Raising an emotionally intelligent kid, like Aldie, is a learning process for both the kid and the parent. It may sound silly to communicate with your baby like an adult when they can’t talk yet, but for Jonisa, it worked!

Her nightly talks with Aldie became their safe space to express his innermost thoughts and feelings, as everything is calm and there are no gadgets nor other distractions.

“Hindi naman tayo perfect, [and] there will be challenges and hardships along the way pero you know, you just accept it na it’s a learning curve. It’s going to be like that for a while, kasi habang nagro-grow sila, tayo din nagro-grow, kailangan pa din natin [matuto].”

(We are not perfect, [and] there will be challenges and hardships along the way, but, you know, you just accept that it's a learning curve. It's going to be like that for a while, because while they are growing, we are also growing, we still need to [learn])

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Welcome Back! Museo Pambata Announces Reopening on Dec. 6

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Dive back into the world of fun and wonder for kids and kids-at-heart, as Museo Pambata is reopening its doors this December!

Following its renovation and temporary closure, which began in 2022, the Philippines’ first children’s museum is set to make a soft reopening on Dec. 6 this year at its location along Roxas Boulevard, Manila.

The reimagined Museo Pambata will offer new experiences and interactive spaces. This includes a modern Bahay Kubo, which transforms the museum’s herbal garden into a space where visitors can experience a traditional Filipino home.

Another new space to look forward to is the “Balay Yatu,” a brand-new building that will feature artworks made from various regions in the Philippines and will be home to the museum’s gift shop and cafe. The space will also be used for Museo Pambata’s events and activities.

The museum will also feature revamped mainstays, such as its iconic “Bahay Pukyutan” outdoor play space, among others.

The reopening comes just in time for the museum’s 30th anniversary. To celebrate this, Museo Pambata is also holding a series of activities for parents and kids, such as the “Isla Pambataexhibition and “Dulaan Pambataperformances starting this month.

The newly revamped Museo Pambata is open from Tuesday to Sunday, with tours held on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. It is also available for private group reservations, rentals, and private events on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays.

For more updates on Museo Pambata’s reopening, follow them on Facebook or Instagram.

Location: Museo Pambata, Roxas Boulevard cor. South Drive, Manila

Opening Hours: 10 AM to 5 PM (Friday to Sunday) | Tuesday to Thursday for private groups and events

Admission Fee: P300 (Friday), P450 (Saturday & Sunday), Free (Children 2 years old and under)

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Life by Petto: Providing Paw-some HMO Plans for Your Pet’s Health Needs

Eileen Borromeo of Life by Petto

It’s no secret that since the beginning of 2020, when the world was hit by the COVID-19 pandemic, there has been a surge in pet ownership across the globe. Many people turned to pets, particularly dogs and cats, to cope with loneliness as a result of social distancing and quarantine rules. If we’re talking about countries in Southeast Asia, the Philippines took the top spot as the country with the most number of pet-related searches in the region during this time, according to data from iPrice Group.

Millennials in particular are among the biggest pet owners among the generations. More than an aftereffect of the pandemic, many of them are also waiting longer than previous generations to start families and as a result, tend to treat their pets like their own children. Pet owners are now spending more money on their “fur babies” especially when it comes to veterinary care. Just imagine the thousands of pesos Filipinos spend on vet visits, from consultations down to prescribed medications.

That’s where Life by Petto comes in, the first app-based health and wellness service for your pet’s concerns. With this app, you can get the most paw-some care for your fur babies through health plans that cover the basics of your pet’s needs.

The Beat Manila sat down with the app’s co-founder, Eileen Borromeo, to tell us about the inspiration behind the business, the challenges and rewards of running it, and the offerings on the app that aim to provide your beloved pets with the well-lived life they deserve (and more).

A Business Born Out of a Need

Like many entrepreneurs, the seed from which this pet healthcare startup grew was from a need. Eileen told us about how her personal pet story shaped the idea for the business, when her cat, Bunny, was diagnosed with a disease known as Feline Infectious Peritonitis (FIP).

“If you're a cat owner, FIP is one of those things that are dreaded, and there's [over] 90% fatality rate. It’s basically a mutation of the coronavirus,” she explained. “The vet said, we'll send her home for palliative care, which is often code for just make her comfortable until she passes away. I was fortunate enough to have been directed to a Facebook support group that also dealt with such issues, so I was able to access experimental medicine, non-FDA approved, which I had to procure from one of the members of that group and which we had to obtain from Hong Kong. I spent over three to four hundred thousand [pesos] on her medication. Bunny was able to survive FIP, but not without leaving a huge dent in my pocket.”

Eileen had been lucky to receive the support she needed at that time, but most pet owners aren’t so lucky when it comes to supporting and handling their pets’ unexpected illnesses. This experience led to a realization that eventually gave birth to the business.

“My eventual co-founder and friend [Choco Cuaso], works for the people in the insurance industry and I asked, ‘Wala pa bang pet insurance (Isn't there a pet insurance yet)?’ This was in 2021, so that was really how it started,” she shared.

Co-founders with Animal Wellness Cebu
Courtesy of Life by Petto

According to their website, Life by Petto enables access to health and wellness services from partner veterinarians and vet clinics, as well as retail services that help better our pet’s lives. Eileen mentioned how we should think of them as the HMO (health maintenance organization) for pets. She also explained further how the service works and what makes them stand out from other companies.

“What really differentiates Life by Petto from other pet insurance companies is that we're basically more preventive, more healthcare-focused. We don't cover death or loss. Again, knowing the market, we don't want to be responsible for people suddenly just picking up a stray or a rescue and pretending that it's their pet, only to claim it for insurance, for a death benefit.”

Eileen and her co-founder got to work in 2021 but didn’t launch it until 2022. Within that year, the entrepreneurs did their homework to understand and confirm if there was really a need, making sure they had the market identified. This was done through research, surveys, FGDs (Focus Group Discussions) and in-depth interviews with anyone they knew was related to the industry.

They also had to figure out ways that they could get defrauded to prevent falsified claims, “Whilst we’re not technically insurance, there are services that overlap with its functions. We're basically a pet membership platform that allows access to veterinary clinics. It’s really an HMO-inspired business.”

Eileen also told us that one of the reasons they decided to create a membership-style pet HMO is because pets are unfortunately considered "non-living things" under the insurance commission. She explained that one of the advantages of the business model is that people are aware of its importance and are actually spending more money on their pets than themselves.

“It's a big cultural shift, not just in the Philippines but also globally. Children are more expensive in general and pose huge responsibilities. There's also less of the stigma related to starting a family. I think it was more felt in older generations where if you're in your early 20s and unmarried with no kids, your parents or grandparents start asking you questions about when you’ll start a family,” Eileen said. “So, pets provide that fulfillment emotionally. They provide companionship.”

She further explained how this has also caused a premiumization of pet products as people are now more willing to spend on their pets, “We're happy that other industries or other companies actually launched because it means that we're not alone. It's not just us imagining that we need something like this, but it's a legitimate industry. Though it's still in its infancy.”

But like in any business, or in this case a startup, it is not without its challenges. “Because we're a startup, everything is pretty much run by myself and my co-founder. Customer service is a challenge and making sure the operation side is more efficient. So we know what the issues are and we've had a relaunch for version 2.0. That's something that we're already working towards improving and we do see those improvements happening by this month.”

“Another challenge is there's no standard yet. People are expecting certain coverages but unlike with people’s insurance, it’s more fixed. With pet insurance, there's still no standard. Everyone's still learning from each other, but the demand is there,” she added.

Life by Petto: Making Your Pets’ Lives Better

So what exactly is on the app and what can you expect as a member? Eileen walked us through some of the highlights and how it makes not only pet’s lives better, but also their owners’ lives easier with its accessible features and user-friendly interface.

One of the first things you’ll notice when you get on the app is how it reduces the pain of having to fill up multiple forms just to be able to share data.

“My co-founder is with the people in the insurance industry so he knows all the lengthy paperwork and requirements needed,” she said. The creators made sure that the registration feels like you're having a conversation with a chatbot, simplifying the entire process.

Life by Petto currently offers two types of health plans: the Basic Plan (P990) and the Plan+ (P1499). The "Basic Plan" is a health plan valued at PHP 100,000 and covers all the essentials including diagnostics, vaccines, and accidents. Meanwhile, the "Plan+" has an additional coverage of up to 20% of procedure cost which includes spay or neuter procedures, surgeries, and common illnesses.

The app is also partnered with a variety of pet service providers including veterinary clinics, grooming services, pet supplies, and animal welfare groups.

“The latest version of the app now has promotions and marketing initiatives from our retail partners. So we realized that pet owners pay for everything. We don't get benefits in any way. It's easy to get benefits for the pet, but we also want to reward the pet-friendly establishments. We hope to see more of, [you know,] vouchers for pet-friendly resorts so if you're a Life by Petto member, that's something that you can enjoy. Even if your pet's not getting sick, you can get all these rewards as part of the membership.”

When asked if the business plans to support other animals apart from cats and dogs, Eileen stated that they’ve yet to expand their offerings to other types of species due to a lack of data available. “In the Philippines, there's no actuary for pet insurance in general. There are some beginnings of it in Asia, but we're not a mature market like the U.S., Europe, or Australia where you can break down the services down to the breed. They have the data which we don't have yet.”

However, while talking about the future of the app, Eileen confirmed that she has made it her personal goal to add more animals to the mix including rabbits, hamsters, and Guinea pigs. She also stated that any feature they intend to add in future versions would be reliant on data like whether it would be more helpful to have specific plans for cats and dogs, rather than having one base plan that covers everything.

It’s also important to note that Life by Petto is the only service that includes senior dogs as Eileen noted that small and large breeds have big differences in terms of age like how smaller dogs can still be young and active at the age of seven or eight but larger breeds are considered to be seniors at that age.

The business is also gearing up to launch a new vertical this Q4 called, “Petto Daily,” which is meant to be the go-to guide for pet care. The inspiration behind the idea was based on personal experience as Eileen is familiar with the woes of not having access to important information, especially for new fur parents.

“One of the hardest things, for example, when you're starting out and you're not sure what to do, people just ask everyone else on social media and they're not vets. So, there's really no source of information or knowledge that guides pet parents and you have to do so much research and the data is so fragmented. That's what we're doing. We're like a specialist pet publication and marketing business. So, watch out for that.”

Petto Daily aims to give access to vetted and verified knowledge for all your pet care needs. The co-founder also revealed that they are working with companies to offer Life by Petto as a benefit to employees.

Life by Petto roadshow
Courtesy of Life by Petto
Life by Petto swag bag
Courtesy of Life by Petto

It's safe to say that Life by Petto definitely got us covered when it comes to securing our pets’ health and wellness needs. When asked about the best part of running the business, Eileen simply expressed a similar sentiment with pet owners, “Just being around dogs and cats because we visit our vet partners a lot. Also, being surrounded by things that you enjoy doing, so the marketing and product development [aspect] of it. It helps to be around inspiring vet partners as well, because they really love what they do and that also inspires us to do better.”

Life by Petto is available on the iOS App Store and Google PlayStore. For more information, visit their website or follow them on Facebook and Instagram.

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How to Take Care of Your Scalp and Hair: Tips from the Pros

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People don’t think too hard about their scalp. While many place great importance on their hair and its health, there’s also a tendency to forget the importance of what it lies on. The scalp, often hidden, ages six times faster than the skin on our face.

This is according to Ms. Jane, the senior scalp consultant at Meinas Philippines. Having dedicated her professional career to guiding those in the dark, Jane now advocates for gentle, scientific-backed, natural-based scalp care to support hair health. Here’s all you need to know about how to care of this surprisingly sensitive part of your body.

People Have Different Scalp Types

Different scalp types include dry, oily, and sensitive
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Much like the skin on your face, the skin on your scalp may have different tendencies. Some people have oily scalps, others have dry scalps, and others still have sensitive scalps. Combination scalps are also possible as some patients report a dry and sensitive scalp or an oily and sensitive scalp.

Oily scalps tend to be greasy while dry scalps may have problems with flaking or itching. Sensitive scalps tend to react easily to products and are prone to redness and irritation. Those with this type of scalp may be more prone to seborrheic dermatitis, psoriasis, or severe dryness.

Oily Scalps Can Also Experience Dryness or Flaking

Contrary to popular belief, oily scalps can also experience issues related to dryness and flaking. “Oil can trigger [issues related to dryness] by disrupting out bacteria on the scalp,” shared Jane.

Seborrheic Dermatitis, which is characterized by flaky or scaly patches of inflamed skin, can in fact be triggered by excessive oil production.

What Affects Scalp Health?

Scalp health affects hair health
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Much like in the rest of your body, many variables can come into play when it comes to scalp health. In fact, even the water you use to wash your hair can affect the state of your scalp.

“We have a lot of OFWs who come to us saying that their hair has changed because [the country they’re in] has hard water,” shared Christine Ong, Managing Partner at Meinas Philippines. Specifically, this is shower water with high levels of minerals such as calcium, magnesium, or chlorides. Dirty water can also be an issue for people living in remote areas.

Another sneaky culprit is chemical residue from hair products or treatments. “What some people don’t know is that [harsh chemicals in] commercial shampoos may not dissolve [as quickly or easily] on your scalp,” shared Christine. “This can lead to clogging on your scalp, which leads to poor hair health as nutrients become less accessible to follicles.”

Another variable at play is genetics and ageing. Women, for example, might notice scalp changes from as early as 30 years old. Medication and hormonal imbalance can also affect scalp health, especially when it causes hormonal imbalance. “PCOS or thyroid problems can cause changes in the scalp due to hormones,” shared Jane. “This is where a balanced diet and a healthy lifestyle can be beneficial.”

What to Avoid According to Your Scalp Type

For those with oily scalps, Jane advised to avoid oil-based treatments or products. Check the labels of your conditioners and products, and make sure that they are mild. Those with dry scalps are advised to avoid strong or synthetic products.

“People with dry scalps who use strong, commercial products might find it best not to use it every day,” Jane adds. "They can use it every three days; but ultimately, it’s best to use mild products as these can be used daily.”

Those with sensitive scalps might find products with low pH levels beneficial. “These tend to be milder on the scalp,” she added.

While hair products like these may be hard to find, Meinas Philippines carries imported shampoos and conditioners that are tailor-made for different scalp types.

Scalp Health Affects Hair Health

It becomes clear that ultimately, scalp health affects hair health and taking better care of your scalp can lead to healthier, fuller hair.

Meinas, which is known for their viral 7-step scalp treatment, continually advocates for taking better care of your scalp to see results on your hair. “We’re not a head spa,” clarified Christine. “While there are plenty of spas opening up these days, places like those will focus more on relaxation. They might not target actual scalp issues. We, however, are a scalp solutions and treatment center, and so while our treatments may be relaxing, they will also have more sustainable benefits in the long run [as they target scalp problems].”

Location: Meinas Philippines, 5th Floor of GH Mall, Ortigas Ave, San Juan City

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Sound Therapy and Reiki Healing: A Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness

Tonette Asprer

Some people see life through rose-colored lenses, but Tonette Asprer chooses to view – or rather, experience – life through vibrations. A percussionist and music graduate, Tonette began her career as part of the San Miguel Philharmonic after graduating from the University of the Philippines College of Music.

“It was a dream come true – but that dream shattered when the orchestra dissolved,” she shared. “That’s when I had to ask myself the hard questions in life.”

Like many young professionals, Tonette’s main goal at the time was financial security. “My main concern then wasn’t figuring out who I was, it was figuring out how to get rich.” And while Tonette laughs at the thought today, back then, the music graduate had – like many of us – practical reasons to hope for such abundance. Yet, what Tonette found in her journey was much more useful; she found mindfulness.

Tonette conducts a sound healing session
Courtesy of Tonette Asprer

Today, the term itself – mindfulness – comes across like a mental health buzzword. But those who have put in the work can attest to how helpful it can be in improving one’s outlook.

Mindfulness is looking at the present moment, without any judgment or attachment,” explained Tonette. It is experiencing sensations without shame, fear, embarrassment, or guilt. “Mindfulness will allow you to be more loving and more forgiving, towards yourself and others.”

Of course, building mindfulness takes time, practice, and patience. The 21st century individual deals with plenty on their plate, so much so that the concept of relaxation becomes not only alien, but difficult to do.

“When we’re young, we’re taught that we need to go, go, go, that we can do it, we can push through,” Tonette pointed out. “But even your gadgets – your phone and your laptop – slow down when too many applications are open. You have to declutter, and that’s the same for your brain.”

In that way, mindfulness is a way to clear one’s mind, to rest, to wring tension out, and even to create boundaries.

Tonette conducts a reiki healing session
Courtesy of Tonette Asprer

For Tonette, her ongoing mindfulness journey has been about ten years in the making. She first started with the life-changing practice of yoga in 2014; this led to her becoming a certified yoga and meditation teacher. But that didn’t stop there; Tonette has since dabbled in other spiritual practices such as reiki healing and sound therapy, founding V432 Wellness, which aims to give clients access to such tools.

“The full benefits of these practices are already inside your own mind, but we can help you draw it out to the rest of your body. And trust me, when you experience it in your own body, that will reinforce everything you know,” she said.

Of course, not everyone believes in such spiritual practices. Energy and vibrations are often scoffed at for being “new age” so while Tonette welcomes those who resonate with her practice, she also admits that people may or may not fall into the same beliefs, all according to “divine timing.”

“These practices – yoga, reiki healing, sound therapy – have been available to us for thousands of years. And yet, it was only 10 years ago that I found myself getting into it, when I was already 37 years old,” Tonette shared. “I do believe that everything happens – and is discovered – through divine timing.”

Tonette with her sound bowls
Courtesy of Tonette Asprer

At V432 Wellness, Tonette and her co-founder, Jose “Isla” Antinero, welcome students to retreats, events, and classes focusing on reiki and sound healing.

“These are practices that help us get in touch with our truest selves, practices that help us get out of the busyness of everyday life,” Tonette said. They also have oracle and tarot reading available for those interested.

Those who avail of sound therapy can expect a relaxing, and sometimes even emotional, session that uses sounds and frequencies to bring the body and mind into a relaxed state. Tonette and Isla use sound bowls brought over from Kathmandu. They use these to tune into specific 432 Hertz frequencies, all of which resonate with the 7.83 Hertz Schumann frequency, which known for enhancing memory and improving stress tolerance in humans. Participants need only to lie back, relax, and allow the sounds to do their magic.

Reiki healing, on the other hand, is more intuitive. As Tonette puts it, reiki healing utilizes energies already in the body, plus kind intention, to heal and connect to the body or to others.

“It revolves around the premise that the body has an innate ability to heal itself,” she added. “You can heal just by touch and some even get to a point where they can send [healing vibrations] remotely, just by intention.”

A unique facet of V432 Wellness is how Tonette and Isla, both musicians, can combine reiki with sound therapy. “Reiki is intention based so every note you play [in sound therapy] can be infused with that blessing and prayer to heal,” she explained.

So how often should people be practicing these tools for mindfulness? Tonette says, every day, “Maybe today, you can do yoga, tomorrow sound healing, the next day mindful writing. But meditation, you need that every day.”

While not everyone subscribes to the same belief system that Tonette and Isla do, there’s no doubt that the teachers’ learnings are beautiful. For her part, Tonette has seen the beauty of kindness through her mindfulness practices.

There is kindness in everyone, and goodness is always innate. We all have our own egos, and we need to be more forgiving and more compassionate towards everyone, including ourselves.”

Location: V432 Wellness, 2nd Floor, Matana Place, 28 Matino Corner Malumanay, Quezon City, Metro Manila

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Manila/ Ohana/ Health & Wellness

Enchong Dee: 'You’re Not Being Selfish for Looking After Yourself'

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Enchong Dee’s impressive repertoire lists him as a former collegiate varsity swimmer, commercial model and endorser, and star of the cult classic movie “Four Sisters and a Wedding.” His professional career has spanned nearly two decades, giving him the opportunity to dabble in both comedic and dramatic roles. He’s appeared in historical drama, “Gomburza," and currently hosts the tenth season of “Pinoy Big Brother.” Yet, what the young multi-hyphenate values among all else is something many often take for granted: personal health.

Despite his busy schedule, Enchong has been known to prioritize both diet and movement. His philosophy towards wellness stands on three main tenets: eat naturally, move more than you eat, and take a rest when needed.

“For me, trusting your gut means listening to your body as a whole,” he shared. “Pay attention to what you’re eating [and how you’re treating your body] because [health problems can] manifest on the outside: on your face, on your skin, or even on your hair.”

Enchong Dee always makes sure to eat a balanced diet
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A former competitive swimmer, the established actor focuses less on the quantity of his diet and more on the quality. “I truly believe that you can eat anything as long as there’s balance,” he shared. “In fact, I don’t restrict myself – I eat everything. I allow myself to have junk but on regular days, I prioritize foods that come [from] Mother Earth.”

He’s also known to support wellness brand, Trizie, which has recently come out with Filipino-favorite flavors for their fiber supplements. Their peach and mango fiber shots are among his everyday favorites, a wellness treat he gifts to close, personal friends.

It’s also no surprise to find out that as a conscious eater, Enchong leans heavily on the natural and the organic. Throughout his travels, the young star has experienced the interconnectedness of local ecosystems – how the abuse of natural resources leads to the disruption of the food chain and local livelihoods.

That’s a new school of thought that I subscribe to: that we’re all connected,” he shared. “Whatever you do to the animals or to the forests, affects us. In the same way, whatever you ingest for yourself, affects your health.”

And while one might expect those with celebrity [status] to prioritize calorie counting, Enchong reveals that his approach is in fact, the opposite. A gourmand of sorts, Enchong has found that food can be fun; and in fact, his adventurous side has brought him to the doorstep of the world’s most exotic delights.

I’ve tried seahorse, scorpion, crickets, and I’m even working up towards trying cockroaches,” he laughed. “I love to eat.” And while his dearest fans know just how much he enjoys a good meal, they can also attest to the athlete’s laidback approach towards weight gain. “It’s not really my main goal to lose weight. I’ve always just maintained my weight – that’s because I’m always on the go. I [may eat a lot] but I move more than I eat.”

Enchong Dee moves more than he eats
Instagram/ Enchong Dee

Of course, busy days traveling and at work can mean that diet and exercise are simply not enough. Rest, as Enchong has revealed, is crucial to his health.

“I 'kill' myself in the gym but I also have my pamper days,” he shared. “I allow myself to rest, I allow myself to stretch, to do grounding work. Because honestly, sometimes, rest is the most important thing.”

Ultimately, this leads Enchong to the most important realization he’s made thus far: that taking care of oneself – and prioritizing one’s health – is in fact, an act of giving. “Don’t think that you’re being selfish for looking after yourself,” he emphasized. “If I eat well, I feel well, I look well, then I [am able to] take care of other people well. That just naturally follows.”

Enchong knows that too many pour into the cups of others before filling their own. As such, he reminds us: it’s important to give ourselves time and love too – without the guilt.

“You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others,” he concluded.

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Understanding Mpox: 10 Essential Facts You Need to Know

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The World Health Organization (WHO) declared Mpox, an infectious disease that can cause a painful rash, enlarged lymph nodes, and fever, as a global public health emergency due to the detection of a fast-spreading variant in Congo and neighboring countries.

As of Sept. 1, the Philippines’ active Mpox cases are at 8, with the government putting importance on raising public awareness and surveillance systems to keep the number from increasing.

Drawing lessons from the early days of COVID-19, it's essential to prioritize raising awareness and gathering information from trustworthy, reputable sources. Let the list of frequently asked questions below guide you in staying informed.

1. What is Mpox?

Formerly known as monkeypox, Mpox is a viral disease caused by the monkeypox virus, which belongs to the Orthopoxvirus genus. Mpox usually resolves on its own, but severe cases can happen, especially in children, pregnant women, and people with weakened immune systems. There are also instances when complications like secondary infections or severe symptoms may occur, which require hospitalization.

2. What are the symptoms of Mpox?

Some symptoms of Mpox include a noticeable rash that may form blisters and eventually scab over, typically lasting about two to four weeks. Other symptoms include fever, headache, muscle aches, and fatigue. Swollen lymph nodes are a key symptom that distinguishes Mpox.

The incubation period for mpox is typically three to 17 days after exposure.

3. How is Mpox transmitted?

Mpox primarily spreads through close contact with an infected person, whether through direct skin-to-skin interactions, such as touching or sexual contact, or through close respiratory exchanges, like kissing or talking in close proximity.

Individuals with multiple sexual partners are at a heightened risk of contracting the virus. The virus can also be transmitted via contaminated objects, such as clothing or linens, and through needle injuries, particularly in healthcare or community settings like tattoo parlors.

During pregnancy, there is a risk of the virus being transmitted to the fetus, which can result in severe complications, including loss of pregnancy or newborn complications. Meanwhile, animal-to-human transmission can occur through bites, scratches, or handling infected animals, although the primary animal reservoir for the virus has yet to be identified. Further research is needed to fully understand how Mpox spreads across different environments and outbreak scenarios.

4. How is Mpox diagnosed?

Identifying Mpox can be challenging due to its similarities with other conditions such as chickenpox, measles, or bacterial skin infections. Diagnostic testing, particularly using PCR to detect viral DNA from rash samples, is essential for accurate diagnosis and timely care.

In cases where skin lesions are absent, throat or anal swabs can be used for testing, though blood tests and antibody detection are not recommended. Early testing helps prevent severe illness and limits the spread of the virus.

5. What are the treatment options for Mpox?

According to the WHO, the goal of treating Mpox is to take care of the rash, manage the pain, and prevent complications. Most cases of Mpox are mild, with symptoms resolving within 2 to 4 weeks. Aside from managing the pain, staying hydrated and maintaining proper nutrition are vital during recovery.

Some antivirals have emergency use authorization in some countries and are under clinical trial evaluation, but no proven effective treatment for Mpox exists yet.

6. Is there a vaccine for Mpox?

The WHO recommends vaccines like MVA-BN, LC16, or ACAM2000 for those at high risk of Mpox exposure, but mass vaccination is not advised. Vaccines provide protection against infection and severe disease, though immunity takes time to develop, and some individuals may not fully respond. Even after vaccination, it's important to continue preventive measures to avoid catching or spreading Mpox.

7. What should I do if I suspect I have Mpox?

If you suspect you have Mpox, contact your doctor or local health department and inform them if you have recently traveled or had close contact with someone who has a suspected case of Mpox.

It’s crucial to get tested as soon as possible. If you have symptoms, isolate at home, avoid physical contact with others, and wear a well-fitting mask if you need to be around others. Those who test positive are advised to notify close contacts, so they too can get tested.

8. How can Mpox be prevented?

Protect yourself and your loved ones by practicing regular hand hygiene. Wash your hands frequently with soap and water or use alcohol-based sanitizers. Avoid close, skin-to-skin contact with others if you have symptoms, and wear a mask when around others.

If you are at high risk of exposure, consider getting vaccinated. It also helps to disinfect high-touch surfaces and objects that may be contaminated, especially in shared living spaces. Those who have been in contact with someone with Mpox are advised to monitor for symptoms for 21 days and isolate if infected.

9. Where can I find reliable information about Mpox?

Receive accurate and up-to-date information about Mpox by following reputable sources such as the Department of Health (DOH), the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), and the World Health Organization(WHO).

The DOH regularly updates their Facebook and Instagram pages with the latest statistics, confirmed cases, and reminders on how to prevent contracting Mpox.

10. What should travelers know about Mpox?

To ensure their safety and health while traveling, travelers should follow the updates and announcements from the WHO, the CDC, and their government health departments. In addition to being aware of the symptoms and taking precautions before and during their trip, travelers should also proactively seek medical attention if they experience symptoms. A healthcare provider will discuss your travel history and potential exposure to the virus.

After returning from a trip, travelers are expected to monitor their health and be on the lookout for symptoms, especially if they have been to areas with known Mpox cases or had close contact with infected individuals.

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UnionBank Mercury Credit Card, New Generation's Healthy Lifestyle Companion

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If there’s one thing the current generations love, it’s a well-balanced life: having great health and making smart financial decisions. Thankfully, UnionBank, in cooperation with drugstore chain Mercury Drug, has launched a new credit card that will give us just that!

The UnionBank Mercury Card, UnionBank and Mercury Drug’s newest offering, is a credit card that’s designed for the “health-conscious, rewards-loving generation.”

With it, cardholders can get numerous perks, including getting five times the reward points on all health and wellness purchases — whether you’re stocking up on vitamins and skincare products or signing up for your favorite fitness classes.

What makes it even more exciting is that there are no annual fees for life (NAFFL), plus there are other exclusive perks to enjoy, like getting a free annual physical exam and ambulance service, among many other benefits!

UnionBank Mercury Card Design
Courtesy of UnionBank

Apart from its stellar perks, cardholders can also enjoy that card’s sleek, modern, and stylish design, featuring an image of the iconic "Mercury Man" on the front.

Giving users a peek of its various benefits, UnionBank and Mercury Drug held a launch party on Oct. 18 at the Grand Hyatt Hotel in BGC, treating the guests to a day full of wellness activities. This included an outdoor yoga session, an indoor cycling class led by the fitness concept of Saddle Row, and rejuvenating treatments and massages from the Grand Hyatt Wellness team.

UnionBank x Mercury Drug Yoga Session
Courtesy of UnionBank
UnionBank x Mercury Drug Cycling Class
Courtesy of UnionBank

Speaking about the new card’s relevance in today’s generation, Steve Azcona of Mercury Drug said during the launch event, “We know the current generation is always looking for ways to live better, and that’s exactly why we created this card. It’s built around the idea that health is wealth, and we’re here to reward you for making the right choices.”

Want to get your hands on the new UnionBank Mercury Card and get started on your wellness journey? Apply here!

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