How to Close the Orgasm Inequality Gap for Female Pleasure
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The O Gap: Femme Sex Educators on How Women Can Navigate Orgasm Inequality

The O Gap Femme Sex Educators on How Women Can Navigate Orgasm Inequality

This interview is part of The Beat Hong Kong’s International Women’s Month coverage. Through highlighting women’s voices, we are celebrating and uplifting the women around us through their stories and multifaceted experiences.

As a woman, there comes many expectations that cloud our relationship with our bodies, our sexual behaviour, and our values surrounding intimacy with ourselves and others. Feeling less than satisfied with the representation of female pleasure around us, a survey by Womanizer revealed that up to 64% of women in Hong Kong feel they can’t relate to media depictions of sex, leading to over half of them (58%) questioning their sexualities as a result.

In lieu of International Women’s Month, we want to extend a safe space for all femmes and females to shatter these misguided assumptions about themselves to focus on finding their own authentic feelings of pleasure.

We spoke to some of Hong Kong’s most eminent advocates of sexual wellbeing to share their personal journeys, and the self-development skills they’ve discovered along the way that any woman can learn to use to understand her own sexuality. Joining us are renowned sexologist and sex educator Sara Tang, alongside mindful intimacy coach and public speaker Viv Kan, as well as health and fitness professional and sex positivity advocate Emily Lola Tan.

Now, pull back a seat at our roundtable to read their advice on how to begin connecting with yourself to become confident and comfortable in defining your own terms and preferences!

How did you begin your journey as an advocate for sexual wellbeing?

Sara Tang (ST): I grew up in a culturally conservative Chinese family in Singapore and was also brought up religious. Sex was considered taboo, and my sex education was negligible. This resulted [in] guilt and shame when I first became sexually active and other bad decision-making.

How I was brought up gave me first-hand understanding of the importance of a good sex education, and how it can have a big impact on someone’s confidence, health, and relationships. Eventually, this led me to pursue sex coaching which is what I do now. As a coach, what especially lights me up [is] working with clients who come from a similar upbringing, and helping them to overcome shame and explore their sexuality.

Viv Kan (VK): It started when I became curious about Tantra and attended workshops while travelling. I thought I was already having great sex, but the tipping point was when I learned about Yoni and Lingam Massage. I thought I'd tell my friends about what I learned. No one had heard of such concepts and practices, but everyone was intrigued and wanted to know more. So, I knew I had to spread the teachings, because we all know conventional sex doesn’t work for everyone.

Emily Tan (ET): Subconsciously, I began advocating for sexual wellbeing when I started teaching pole dancing in 2007. I describe it as such because I was amazed by the transformations over the years, but I wasn’t equipped with elaborative language we use today.

Being intentional about what I was doing happened after I was diagnosed with cancer in 2018, and I felt the pull to heal my sexual trauma. I was connected with Sara Tang and through our conversations led by her warmth, openness and encouragement, the dots finally started to connect.

I started talking more openly about sex and fast forward to today, I’m studying with Sexual Health Alliance to qualify as a Sexuality Consultant! I also write a weekly newsletter called Creative Eroticism, where I integrate sexual wellbeing with discussions on mental and physical health.

What is the most harmful misconception about the female orgasm? Could you please explain the truth behind the myth?

VK: That penetrative sex is the way to female orgasm. It can be, but 75% of women actually don’t orgasm from penetrative sex.

ST: The truth is that a large majority of women need direct clitoral contact to reach orgasm, and that is often not something that is specifically catered to with the thrusting motion of penetrative intercourse.

VK: There’s so much untapped real estate around the vulva, nipples (yes, nipple orgasm is a thing!), and the rest of our bodies that can lead to incredible orgasmic sensations.

ET: Like many things, there are layers to this. I think one of the most harmful misconceptions about the female orgasm is layering guilt onto it if a woman doesn’t experience one. Just because it’s not easy for you to have orgasms doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.

Your stress levels, environment, relationship stability, responsibilities, health, beliefs, guilt… all contribute to your entire systems ability to allow you to connect to your body better.

ST: Many women who fail to reach orgasm, may blame themselves and feel like it’s their fault. Or they only engage in sex for their partner’s sake and not for themselves. Over time, sex may start to feel like a chore: they desire it less, and it then becomes an issue in the relationship.

ET: Now, if we want more orgasms than we’re having right now, it does require some less-sexy work, like [taking time to schedule] solo or partner sex. Which are also normal and common! For the women who require some life admin juggling to free up space for self-intimacy — I hear you. You’re not alone, and we deserve to create that space.

What do you think are some key social or cultural barriers (pain points) that need to be addressed for us to move forward with embracing, and even researching female sexuality?

VK: I’d love to see women release shame, guilt, and self-judgement on embracing our sexuality. I’d like to see all genders supporting other women for being sexually open.

Oftentimes, people get triggered by the topic of sexuality because we were never taught how to approach it or talk about it like adults. Or we’ve been suppressed or conditioned to think it was dirty. So, let’s recondition ourselves to understand that there is no wellbeing if there’s no sexual wellbeing.

ST: Female sexuality has been under-represented and misunderstood for centuries. It started coming to light in an era when men dominated science and when female sexuality was either objectified or constrained by social, financial, cultural and other economic pressures.

ET: Up until 1993, women were excluded from clinical research and trials. Things are finally changing, but it will take years and maybe even decades for a significant shift in combating barriers on female sexuality.

VK: I’d like to see more funding for female sexual pleasure research — the full anatomy of the clitoris was discovered in 2005, what?! that requires more women on the board of research scientists approving these studies.

ST: Most mandatory sex education in Asia still revolves around instilling fear around sexually transmitted infections and prevention of pregnancy, and it leaves little room for the discussion of pleasure. The clitoris is never (or hardly ever) mentioned.

ET: If we could expand the work currently focused on the generations in the middle, I think we stand a better chance in demonstrating that embracing a taboo topic like female sexuality is natural and need not be met with shame.

ST: Another thing that needs to be addressed is how to close the orgasm gap, which states that in most typical heterosexual sexual encounters, 95% of men have an orgasm and only 55% of women do.

How might a woman who is unfamiliar with talking about her sexuality openly approach this topic, or start a discussion?

ET: Keep working on the relationship with ourselves and get familiar with what makes us feel true. Stay connected to how we want to feel and what we want to embody.

VK: Start with something you feel curious about and want to educate yourself more on, i.e., the seven-plus different types of female orgasms! Look for podcasts, workshops, courses, and events (online if you’re just starting).

ST: I personally like the medium of podcasts because you can really dive in deep to people’s conversations and it feels intimate. I started the Better in Bed podcast to normalise the way we talk about sex, and I recommend it as a resource.

ET: The change isn’t finite as the journey is the reward. Some women develop passion after discovering different activities, people and experiences. Get creative with eroticism!

ST: Finding a sex-positive friend or community of peers to share some personal thoughts and stories with can be very helpful. Sex-positive just refers to the someone’s attitude being accepting and non-judgemental about sex and pleasure.

VK: If you have a partner, talk to them about attending a fun workshop together to build connection and intimacy. Let this be an educational process. Since they never teach you these things in school, it’s our responsibility to learn about our own sexuality.

What are some mindfulness habits or health habits that can help a woman feel confident in prioritizing her sexual pleasure?

ET: You’d be surprised how good a proper shower can make us feel. Solo dance before masturbation. Feel the sheets. Like truly, wiggle and melt into your bedsheets. Eat to feel nourished. Thinking to feel nourished. Giving to feel nourished. My favourite — move to feel nourished. Feed the senses, treat yourself with spinal waves, give yourself head tingles, and indulge in your own body’s ability. Invite feel over perform.

VK: Learn about your own anatomy of your genitals, especially learning the correct terms as most people don’t know what the difference between vulva and vagina is. Take a mirror and really look at her. Understand that she is literally the source of all life and is an incredible part of your being. Practice self-pleasure around the vulva, the entrance to the vagina, inside, or anywhere on the body. Our largest sex organ is our skin!

ST: I’m a big fan of combining the practice of mindfulness with masturbation. Mindful masturbation is a slow, sensual way to explore your pleasure, get grounded in your body and give yourself a healthy dose of self-love.

Many people masturbate on auto-pilot because they’ve found the most efficient way to “get themselves off” and they stick to it. Mindful masturbation about staying present in the moment and letting yourself feel every sensation, and most importantly, shifting away from focusing on the goal of orgasm but embracing pleasure in all its forms.

What does a good orgasm feel like for a woman? What does it feel like emotionally?

ST: Defining what is a “good” orgasm is totally subjective. An orgasm is a peak sexual experience — it’s a build-up of sexual tension and arousal that is released in a pleasurable way.

Everyone experiences orgasm differently, and the same woman can even experience her orgasm differently from day to day. It depends on so many different factors — how aroused she is, how stressed she was at work, if she’s having an orgasm solo vs a partner, if she is using a toy or stimulating herself manually.

ET: To define what a good orgasm should feel like wouldn’t be fair, in my humble opinion. So, allow me to make this question more personal than general.

A good orgasm to me feels like the spine has taken over the monkey mind. Energy that feels trapped finally finds space to flourish and when I do relinquish the habit of control, it’s like I find “new” spinal flexibility from my head and tailbone digging into my bed while my spine drives to my chest towards the ceiling, exposing the walls built over the years and softening emotional hardness.

VK: Typically, when a woman gets a cervical orgasm, they feel this slow build-up of energy from the cervix, bursting up to the heart and spreads through the entire body like electric shocks are busting out of their fingers and toes. It feels like you’re basically high, like you’re at a heightened state of consciousness without the drugs.

ST: There is no definitive sensation of orgasm for everyone. Some women feel relaxed and sleepy, while others are totally energized.

Having an orgasm releases the feel-good neurochemicals of dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin. So, orgasms often result in a feeling of a release, bliss, connectedness and help to enhance and uplift one’s mood.

What is something you hope to share with the sex positive community this International Women’s Month? Any changes you hope to see in the dialogue surrounding female sexuality?

VK: I hope to share that intimacy and sex is defined by us and how we want to carry it. I hope to see women release shame, guilt, and judgement around the topic and really own their powerful sexualities because the positive attitude can permeate to ALL areas of our lives. Don’t be afraid of unleashing that power.

ST: I’d love to encourage every woman to become the author of their own sexual narrative by doing this simple exercise.

Start with some investigation around your current beliefs around sex and sexuality. Ask yourself why are they there? How did they come about? Assess these beliefs, think about the ones that are not serving you anymore and then consciously and deliberately let them go.

Clarify your own sexual values. Ask yourself what you want to believe, and what matters to you now in your sexual journey? These sexual values can be different to the ones we had growing up.

By intentionally choosing what your values are and educating yourself about your sexuality, you become the author of your own sexual narrative and a more liberated, empowered woman.

ET: Pause – Before we respond with a comment about someone, ask, where is your judgment coming from?

Judgement – Before we alter our behaviour towards the other based on our judgement of them, ask, are you helping or perpetuating the problem?

Perpetuating – Before we attempt lecturing anyone else, ask, what are some current actions that are perpetuating where we stand today?

The above interview responses have been edited for length and clarity.


Stay connected and keep up with:

Sara at her website here, or on Instagram

Viv on Instagram, see how to book a wellness workshop at Kan Elevate here

Emily at her website here, or on Instagram 

Special thanks to Womanizer (WeVibe) for providing informative data and statistics as supporting research for this article.

Click here to see the rest of our International Women’s Month series.

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A Parent’s Guide to Enjoying Hong Kong Disneyland with Kids and Babies
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For many families, visiting Hong Kong Disneyland is more than just a trip – it’s a milestone. It’s where little ones get to meet the characters they love, experience the magic of fairy tales, try iconic Disneyland treats, and create core memories with loved ones. However, a visit to this enchanting destination can also be a source of stress, especially for parents juggling the young ones’ needs while trying to make the most of the park’s attractions.

If you’re planning a trip to Hong Kong Disneyland with babies and kids, preparation is key. From understanding ticket prices to knowing the height requirements for rides, we’ve got tips to help you make your family outing smooth and unforgettable. Be guided by some reminders below:

Visiting Hong Kong Disneyland: Plan Ahead

When planning your HK Disneyland visit, make sure you check weather websites for forecasts. Hong Kong can get hot and humid so make sure you bring hats and fans. You can also download the Hong Kong Disneyland Resort official mobile app so you can look into park hours, review maps, and locate the attractions you want to visit.

Take note of these must-dos before your trip:

  • Buy tickets in advance

You can book online to avoid long queues at the entrance and take advantage of discounts and bundles. Ticket prices vary depending on the Tier Level. General admission tickets are priced from HK$669 to HK$939 per person. Children aged 3 to 11 and seniors aged 60 and above can enjoy a discounted ticket price of around HK$639. Kids under 3 years old enter for free. For families planning to visit frequently, the park also offers two-day passes and Magic Access memberships. Be sure to check the official Hong Kong Disneyland website for promotional offers, as discounts and packages for families are often available. Don’t forget to note the validity date of your tickets.

  • Plan your visit and note the attractions

Attractions like "It's a Small World," "The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh," and "Dumbo the Flying Elephant" are perfect for little ones. Maximize the app and check if there are character meet-and-greets as well.

  • Pack smart!

Bring essentials like diapers, baby wipes, formula/milk, snacks, sunscreen, and a change of clothes. Lightweight strollers are a must or you can rent one at the park.

Once at the park, you can also take advantage of Hong Kong Disneyland’s family-friendly amenities such as:

Baby Care Center: Located on Main Street, U.S.A., the Baby Care Center provides a comfortable space for nursing and diaper changes. Facilities include a nursing room, diaper-changing stations, highchairs upon request, and access to a refrigerator, microwave, and hot water for preparing baby meals.

Companion Restrooms: To make restroom visits easier, the park features six Companion Restrooms where parents and kids can go together, avoiding any inconvenience.

Stroller Parking: Convenient stroller parking areas are available near major attractions. Simply leave your stroller with a Cast Member, enjoy the attraction, and retrieve your stroller with the provided parking ticket.

Height Requirements for Rides at HK Disneyland

Safety is a priority at Hong Kong Disneyland, and height restrictions are in place for certain attractions. For example, rides like Hyperspace Mountain and RC Racer require riders to be at least 102 cm tall, while the Iron Man Experience and Big Grizzly Mountain Runaway Mine Cars have a minimum height requirement of 112 cm. Don’t worry if your little ones don’t meet the height requirements — there are plenty of kid-friendly options they can enjoy.

You can also catch shows like "Mickey and the Wondrous Book" or the evening fireworks are relaxing ways to keep kids entertained without standing in line.

A full list of height requirements is available on the park’s website or at the entrance of each ride, so you can plan your itinerary accordingly. You can also review all the attractions online.

The Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique for Little Princesses

For young princesses-in-the-making, the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique is an experience not to be missed. Located in the castle area, this enchanting salon transforms little ones into royalty with beautiful costumes, hairstyling, and accessories. Packages range from simple hairstyling to full transformations with princess dresses, tiaras, and keepsake photos.

Appointments at the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique are highly sought after, so booking in advance is recommended to avoid disappointment. Be sure to check the age requirements and available time slots on the HK Disneyland website.

Stroller Rentals at Hong Kong Disneyland

Navigating the park with young children can be tiring, but Hong Kong Disneyland makes it easier with stroller rentals. Here’s what you need to know:

Rental Location: Strollers can be rented at the old-time firehouse next to City Hall on Main Street, U.S.A. They are for in-park use only and cannot be taken outside or used on Main Street vehicles and trains.

Pricing:

  • Stroller: HK$150 per day (HK$90 for eligible guests with disabilities).
  • Rain cover or stroller lock: HK$50 per day each.
  • Deposit: A refundable deposit of HK$100 per item is required and can be redeemed when all items are returned with the rental ticket by the end of the day.

Availability: Rentals are offered on a first-come, first-served basis, and reservations are not allowed.

With a bit of planning and the right information, a trip to Hong Kong Disneyland can be as magical as it is memorable. Visit the Hong Kong Disneyland website for more information. Follow them on Instagram to stay updated.

Location: Hong Kong Disneyland, Lantau Island, Hong Kong

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Yuletide Season in HK: Cheap Christmas Activities to Try This 2024
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Are you looking for ways to make the most of Christmas in Hong Kong without emptying your wallet? With the holiday spirit alive and well in the city, there are plenty of ways to enjoy the season without spending too much. From twinkling lights to fun Christmas markets, you can enjoy the sounds of holiday songs, savor festive food, and find unique Christmas gifts.

Here are eight activities you can do this Christmas season in Hong Kong, all on a budget.

Stroll Through Christmas Displays

Hong Kong’s streets are decked out in blinking Christmas lights, and the best part is, you can enjoy most of them for free. Take a casual walk through areas like Avenue of Stars and Central Harbourfront, and let the festive lights brighten your day. These spots are perfect for snapping a few pictures with your family or friends or just soaking in the holiday ambiance.

Take a Walk Through Hong Kong Park

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If you’re looking for a peaceful way to enjoy the Christmas season without spending anything, Hong Kong Park is the place to be. While it doesn’t have flashy holiday displays, the park’s eye-catching greenery and calm atmosphere make it a great spot to unwind during the cooler months. Bring a thermos of hot cocoa, wander along the scenic paths, or simply sit on a bench and soak in the holiday spirit with your family and friends.

Explore Christmas Town in Kowloon

If you’re looking for a place to soak in some Christmas wonder without spending a dime, head to Christmas Town in Kowloon. The towering Christmas tree and festive displays make this area a must-see. The event runs until Jan. 1, 2025, offering plenty of time to experience the holiday magic. Make sure to bring your kids, as they’ll love meeting Santa Claus, taking photos, and soaking in the festive atmosphere.

Visit WestK Christmas Market at Art Park

For a festive outing with a mix of international flavors and Christmas gifts, the WestK Christmas Market is a great option. Open at the Harbourside Mid Lawn of the Art Park, this market runs until Dec. 29 and features six specialty booths alongside more than 30 additional booths offering festive food and unique Christmas gifts. It’s a laid-back and affordable way to spend time with loved ones while discovering new and fun seasonal treats.

Experience A Furry Christmas Wonderland at Central Market

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For a magical Christmas experience with a furry twist, head to Central Market, where beloved characters like Lucifer from “Cinderella," the Dalmatian family from “101 Dalmatians,” and Marie from “The Aristocrats” come to life for the first time in Hong Kong. Snap photos with these classic characters and enjoy over 20 pet-themed activities that are perfect for creating memories with your pets.

Relax at Victoria Park

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Located in the heart of Causeway Bay, Victoria Park offers a peaceful escape from the bustling city. During the Christmas season, the park is full of residents enjoying the weather and spending time outdoors. Sure, there are not a lot of Christmas displays here, but the festive spirit is palpable as families gather and people engage in leisurely activities.

Join the Noir Gold Christmas Soiree at Stanley Plaza

Get into the festive spirit with Stanley Plaza’s ninth annual Noir Gold Christmas Soiree, happening from Dec. 21 to 26. This year’s elegant black-and-gold theme is the perfect backdrop for over 120 stalls featuring a mix of new and beloved brands, including Macau’s DIGREEN ice cream and local favorites like Wun Kee’s eggrolls. Don’t miss the Winter Rendezvous with Ramon Christmas Bazaar at Murray House, where you can enjoy gourmet treats, fun games, and a charity sale benefiting the Little Life Warriors Society.

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Would You Join This Inclusive Fitness Challenge? What to Know about Hyrox
How Hyrox Redefines Fitness in HK

The recently concluded Hyrox Hong Kong race — held last Nov. 23 to 24 2024 at the AsiaWorld Expo — brought out the best of the best in the city’s fitness community. Of course, “the best of the best” didn’t just include elite athletes, it also encompassed those with a passion for health and wellness.

Priding itself on inclusivity, Hyrox Hong Kong welcomed 6,500 participants over the course of two days for a challenging yet invigorating race that included a 1-kilometer run and various fitness stations.

“Hyrox events follow a consistent format across all competitions, ensuring fairness and compatibility,” shared Hyrox APAC Managing Director Gary Wan. “Each event consists of a one-kilometer run followed by a functional workout station, repeated eight times. The workout stations include exercises such as SkiErg, sled push, sled pull, burpee broad jumps, rowing, farmers carry, sandbag lunges, and wall balls. The consistent race format enables global leaderboards and a cumulative World Championships at the end of each race season.”

Founded in Germany in 2017 by Christian Toetzke and Moritz Fürste, Hyrox has since seen an exponential growth in popularity. This year alone, global events attracted a combined total of over 210,000 participants.

In Hong Kong, 6,500 participants hit the course, representing a threefold increase from our previous event in 2023,” Gary noted. “The atmosphere was electric, as competitors from diverse backgrounds came together to push their limits and celebrate the spirit of fitness.”

Those who missed the 2024 edition needn’t fear as the Hyrox 2025 lineup has already been announced. They begin with a Manchester race in January and will be followed up by events in Las Vegas, Guadalajara, Bilbao, and Rotterdam in February.

Hyrox also aims to bring the popular sports event to major Asian cities within the next two years. “Hyrox is already in Hong Kong, Singapore, Taipei, Beijing, and Incheon with Tokyo and Bangkok races planned for 2025,” he revealed. “There is hope of increasing from 150 to 170 [events] worldwide and engaging a million participants annually.”

Hyrox is an inclusive fitness event
Hyrox is an inclusive fitness event | Instagram/Hyrox HK

But what exactly makes Hyrox so popular despite its physical demands? Aside from the convenience of holding the race indoors (and thereby unaffected by weather), Hyrox has also been tailored to include as many participants as possible.

“What sets HYROX apart is its inclusivity; participants of all fitness levels can take part, with categories tailored to different ambitions,” Gary shared. Hyrox divisions include Pro Women’s/Men’s, Open Women’s/Men’s, Doubles Women’s/Men’s/Mixed, Doubles Pro Women’s/Men’s, and a Relay Women’s Men’s Mixed Division.

Hyrox challenges a person's overall fitness profile
Hyrox challenges a person's overall fitness profile | Instagram/Hyrox HK

Hyrox races also challenge a person’s overall fitness profile, focusing on a well-rounded fitness profile. Challenges are made to test a person’s strength, endurance, speed, and mental toughness, without discrimination for one or the other.

The fact that Hyrox is present in multiple cities globally also fosters a community for participants, making it a fun challenge that is relatable on a global scale. “Our global presence has fostered a vibrant and supportive community, where participants often praise the camaraderie and encouragement experienced at events,” noted Gary.

A fitness enthusiast himself, Gary observed that training in a community fosters motivation and social connection, “Participants also benefit from the collective knowledge and experience of others, which can lead to improved techniques and strategies.”

The Hyrox race gives people a sense of fulfillment
The Hyrox race gives people a sense of fulfillment | Instagram/Clare Cheung

Ultimately, Gary believes that Hyrox events provide people with a sense of accomplishment and personal growth. Overcoming the rigors of this popular indoor race can definitely give a participant a sense of fulfillment — which, Gary believes, is ultimately why people have been flocking to sign up.

To know more about Hyrox, visit their website and follow them on Instagram.

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Mind HK Launches 'Unseen Struggles' Fundraising Campaign for Mental Health
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Local mental health charity Mind HK is raising funds to expand Improving Access to Community Therapies (iACT) program, launched in 2022, offering free, professional one-on-one psychological support to those struggling with mild to moderate depression or anxiety.

With public mental health services facing waits of up to two years, iACT provides timely, evidence-based care for those in need.

The Unseen Struggles campaign, running through December, shares stories from eight individuals who’ve faced mental health challenges, shedding light on their experiences to inspire understanding and support.

One of the participants in the campaign includes Yvette Kong, an Olympic swimmer and lululemon mental well-being global advisory board member. The goal currently stands to raise HK$400,000, which will provide over 165 free therapy sessions.

iACT’s impact is clear: between Sept. 2023 and April 2024, over 70% of participants reported significant improvement, and nearly 65% with severe symptoms recovered after two or more sessions.

Unseen Struggles
Courtesy of Mind HK

Donating HK$375 can cover the cost of one therapy session for someone in need. Contributions over HK$500 come with a festive card by artist Erin Hung. Additionally, lululemon will match donations for the “Unseen Struggles campaign, enabling donors to double their impact during the campaign’s second week.

Help make a difference by donating via the Mind HK fundraising page on Give Asia.

For updates and more information, visit Mind HK on their website, or follow them on Instagram, Facebook, and X (Formerly Twitter).

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Sophia Hotung Shines Light on Invisible Disabilities at TEDxTinHau Women
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Writer and illustrator Sophia Hotung is a familiar face in Hong Kong through her dedicated work raising awareness for people suffering from invisible disabilities and chronic illnesses.

Sophia was a typical brace-wearing, glasses-toting teen, until her health took a hit at 16 when she was diagnosed with autoimmune hepatitis. The illness pulled her out of school for a year, and she later got diagnosed with seven chronic illnesses, including celiac disease, which often left her feeling isolated in a city where gluten-free dining is a challenge.

Today, she advocates for people suffering from invisible disabilities and chronic illnesses, selling her artworks to raise funds for affiliated charities and giving talks in the community and schools.

Sophia and her print
Courtesy of TEDx TinHau Women

Despite her health struggles, Sophia is a prolific writer and illustrator. She has published her fourth book, “The (Unlikely) Hong Konger,” just in time for Christmas.

This is the fourth in her “The Hong Konger” series of eye-popping prints which examine the city’s unique melting pot of international and local scenes through a satirical, celebratory lens, while parodying The New Yorker magazine covers.

"The (Unlikely) Hong Konger" includes Sophia Hotung’s original collection of 100 artworks from "The Hong Konger," along with 12 exclusive previously unseen pieces. Part narrative about her life, part artwork, this compilation showcases the quintessential yet often overlooked scenes of Hong Kong.

TEDX Tin Hau
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At TEDxTinHau Women 2024 this year, Sophia will be sharing the stage with Jessica Chan, an advocate for gender and disability equality who was born with Achondroplasia, a form of dwarfism, for a joint talk on invisible and visible disabilities, in relation to this year's theme: “In Motion.”

Sophia sat down with The Beat Asia to share what we can look forward to at her upcoming TEDx talk, the challenges of living with an invisible illness, and the exciting release of her new book.

You will be sharing the stage with Jessica Chan, who has a visible disability. What topics will you be touching on in your talk with her?

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Jessica and I didn't want to be seen as a monolith, but at the same time, this is an opportunity to flag that the disabled community is very diverse. Jessica looks visibly different – but she’s a major player in her company, does HYROX, and just came back from an extreme surfing holiday.

Meanwhile, I look like I can work out, and look pretty normal, but if I'm walking around for a day, I need three days to recover from that.

Jessica and I also differ in our choice of language. She prefers the term “differently abled” to disabled, and I prefer "disabled" because I feel very disabled.

The main idea that we've discussed for this TEDx talk “In Motion” is the idea of progress; developing new ways of pushing forward an inclusive disability agenda, especially in Hong Kong, as it has some backward and prescriptive views still. There is a lot of awkwardness or uncertainty about how we go about talking to disabled people.

So, we've got a few takeaways on what we would recommend in this talk. Not necessarily blanket advice because everyone's different, but something that I think can apply to most cases.

What falls under this umbrella of invisible disabilities?

It's really hard to put things in boxes because there are so many different diagnoses. But [an invisible] disability is any health condition that makes getting through an average day harder but is not apparent. Autism is a good example, or lupus.

That said, I like to leave a label more up to the individual. It's really no one's job to force someone into coming out as disabled. It’s a process that everyone has to take in their own stride.

What can members of the public do to support people with invisible disabilities?

Sophia at her Exhibition
Courtesy of Sophia Hotung

I really think that language is an easy fix. When you see someone with a disability, your immediate response doesn’t have to be pity, patronization, or pandering.

You don't need to sugar coat it, or be super optimistic, but you also don't need to be miserable about it. We just get on with our days and see it as any other neutral part of our identities.

So a big push in the talk is just this idea of see, disability is neutral and that will change a lot about [working to be more] inclusive.

What role does art play in your life and as you deal with the challenges of your illnesses?

The Hong Konger
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My first art collection, "The Hong Konger" started as a joke because I was bored in bed. There were no cures and I couldn't go back to work, so I was drawing to pass the time.

I've been through the Hong Kong school system – it’s very competitive academically and to finally have something that had no compass, rubric, or grading system [finding a creative outlet] was very refreshing after so many years of exams.

When you keep doing repetitive movements and find yourself slowly getting better, [having] things in your head that you can produce with your hands [offers] a real feeling of control and satisfaction, especially at a time where I felt like I had no control over what my life would become. That was very powerful.

It doesn’t have to be art that you express yourself through, but any hobby can be very helpful, especially when you're dealing with a new limitation that feels like it's the end of the world.

Can you share more about your company Pangolin Society with us?

Joanna and Sophia
Courtesy of Sophia Hotung

From day one, when I started making art, people were asking for free art, and I was burning through the money I had made in my last job. I had charities asking for free stuff, so I tried to come up with a way where I could make art, but both charities and I could profit from it.

I teamed up with this charity called Equal Justice Hong Kong, which provides legal support to people who normally can’t afford it. I made them three artworks, and we agreed to split any profit 50/50. This would compensate me for labor and resources, but the charity also got 50% of the sales, and they have ownership rights to the art, which means they can put the images on a tote bag, put it on a mug, etc.

Pangolin’s mission is to find strategic ways to fundraise that is profitable for all parties. I haven't perfected this yet, but I do think there is a model here for a way of working with charities that is sustainable for artists.

The (Unlikely) Hong Konger is a beautiful book combining narrative with illustrations. How did you come up with the concept?

The Unlikely Hong Konger
Website/ Sophia Hotung

It’s about growing up in Hong Kong, and how my accidental art career spawned, that’s what gives it the name: "The (Unlikely) Hong Konger."

The history of Hong Kong has played out in an unlikely way. Everyone thought Hong Kong was never going to be a functional city, because there’s no water on the island, there’s no arable land, and yet, here we are.

This theme runs through the book, whether it's related to work, illness or Hong Kong itself. This idea of the art industry and COVID-19 pops up in there as well, and how people dealt with it in different ways.

The overall message of the book is that things never go according to plan, but there's a way to handle the punches.

If you look only on the right side [recto] of [its spread], it's an arty coffee table book. It has all the Hong Kongers and a few extra ones that I threw, but if you look on the left side [verso], its dramatized and reads like a novel. But it's the true story of how I started being really sick.

What advice would give young people who are exploring a career in art?

Kids Gallery
Courtesy of Sophia Hotung

Even if you are embarrassed to put your art out there, you should still make it, because it can always come out later when you're an adult and you’ve gotten over the embarrassment. It’s cool, productive, and it's all part of the journey.

Catch Sophia Hotung at TEDxTinHau Women on Friday, Dec. 6, 2024 at Xiqu Centre in West Kowloon and at her book signing of The (Unlikely) Hong Konger on Dec. 7 at Kelly & Walsh in Pacific Place.

Stay connected with Sophia on her website, and follow her on Instagram, or Facebook. For more information, visit TEDxTinHau Women 2024 on their website, Facebook, and Instagram.

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COMFELIE Pop-Up Brings a Splash of Comfort and Confidence to Hong Kong
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Hong Kong embraced comfort and empowerment at the COMFELIE Pop-Up Event, where the bra brand celebrated its mission of revolutionizing wireless lingerie while raising awareness for breast health.

Known for their seamless bras, COMFELIE crafted a unique experience where fashion, function, and purpose intertwined, and our wardrobe and well-being thanked us for it!

For three days from Nov. 22 to Nov. 24, 2024, guests were invited to enjoy 50% off bras in-store, and take part in lively activities including yoga sessions, crafty sessions, live music parties, and more, all under one roof.

Partnering with the Phenomenally Pink Breast Cancer non-profit organization, COMFELIE dedicated a portion of event proceeds to support vital breast health initiatives.

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The pop-up event, which took place at Hilltop Plaza in the heart of Soho, featured the Women Connect Comfelie Talk, a powerful panel discussion led by inspiring women such as entrepreneur Teodora Lazarova, dancer and artist Anisha Thai, breast cancer survivor Eugeniya Menassa, and hosted by the talented makeup artist Joy Kawuma. They covered topics such as beauty, empowerment, and diversity.

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And because COMFELIE knows how to spoil us, the brand has introduced a buzz-worthy deal: spend HK$100 and receive a FREE HK$129 four-piece gift set, including a branded umbrella, makeup pouch, and more. Who says self-care can’t come with perks? Make sure to hurry, though, cause this promo is only until supplies last!

The brand is a godsend to women's comfort and well-being. the brand continues to tackle common challenges in lingerie, such as underwire discomfort, with innovative solutions. Designed by women for women, COMFELIE’s bras combine 43% spandex for incredible elasticity and softness, delivering a second-skin fit that supports long-term breast health without compromising style.

Missed it? Don’t worry — you can still explore their collection online and bring a little everyday luxury into your life.

To find out more, visit COMFELIE on their website, or follow them on Instagram and Facebook.

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How to Unlock Your Intuition According to Psychic Christina Ko
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Hong Kong is best known for its neon signages, dim sum, and of course, Disneyland. But for those who call the city home, Hong Kong is much more than that. It is an amalgamation of memories, a cacophony of sights, sounds, tastes, and noises.

Amidst the organized chaos, Christina Ko, a local writer, psychic, and wellness advocate, finds life spread throughout years’ worth of memories.

“For me, Hong Kong was about growing up eating Sunday dim sum with extended family, holding the latest ‘Old Master Q’ comic that my mom would buy to keep us kids occupied throughout the meal,” she recalled.

It was about teenage years spent roaming Causeway Bay sipping on bubble tea, playing Puzzle Bobble in smoky arcades, and learning Cantonese at “Lunch K” [lunchtime karaoke] sessions. “Back then, we knew which bars in Lan Kwai Fong didn’t check for IDs, and my best friend and I spent afternoons buying broken heart necklaces at the underground mall in Sugar Street,” Christina added.

A portrait of Christina Ko
A portrait of Christina Ko | Courtesy of Christina Ko

Today, her love for the city is further underlined by the launch of her self-made oracle deck, Mali Mali Home, which is available at her spiritual space, Good Peoples.

A useful guide in life, oracle decks such as Christina’s can be used as a tool for decision-making or grounding.

“[Oracle decks] are a form of solace, a sense of direction, a trigger for creativity. You draw a card, and it gives you advice, inspiration, or maybe even a kick in the ass (that you probably needed at the time),” she shared.

Alongside creative meditation, breathwork, readings, and workshops, Good Peoples offers this tributary oracle deck to those seeking clarity via Hong Kong’s nuanced lifestyle. In fact, the name “Mali Mali” is inspired by the playful Hong Kong phrase that parallels magic’s “Abracadabra."

“The phrase itself doesn’t have a written form but is familiar when said,” Christina explained. “When I looked into it, some sources suggested that it was an adaptation or bastardization of the Buddhist chant, ‘Om Mani Padme Hum,' which we can repeat as a form of purification or connection to our inner selves.”

The Mali Mali Home Deck
The Mali Mali Home oracle deck | Courtesy of Christina Ko

Consisting of 33 cards, Mali Mali Home invites locals and foreigners to explore their life paths through city scenes. From polaroid images of Hong Kong’s minibuses and milk tea, Mali Mali Home delivers energy that inspires, soothes, and invigorates. Its only irony comes from how it was birthed. “I first came up with the idea of Mali Mali Home when Hong Kong was at its lowest,” Christina admitted, recalling the pandemic and the year before. At the time, people had shuttered themselves in at home and were ultimately fearful of the future. “We were wondering if we would die of a disease we thought we’d already conquered [SARS in 2002],” she recalled.

But despite the circumstances, Christina affirmed that Mali Mali Home is a testament to hope, “Hope that a bauhinia flower on a tree could remind us to bloom, that the sight of an illegally built rooftop awning might encourage us to take a little risk, or that a plate of rice rolls would allow us to create our own bold flavors."

Chinese Medicine card
Chinese Medicine card from Mali Mali Home | Courtesy of Christina Ko

Since then, Mali Mali Home has inspired many among the psychic's inner circle – and is used by Christina herself during her readings for other people. A keen observer of everyday life, Christina had formerly worked as an editor for a luxury magazine.

When you interview and write about people for as long as I have, you can’t help but be fascinated by the human psyche,” she mused. "And when you interview celebrities, you can get as little as four minutes to get to know them before you write about them – so you try to read them intuitively, from how they walk into the room to how they chew a sandwich. From there, I started getting readings for myself – astrology, Bazi, numerology, Akashic records. And then, one Sunday morning last year, after a retreat, I woke up, and [realized] I was psychic.”

Christina Ko
A portrait of Christina Ko | Courtesy of Christina Ko

Since honing her intuitive gifts – which she maintains is a gift given to all humans – Christina has learned a lesson or two.

One, that intuition entails both trust and forgiveness. “I spent so many years as the vaunted editor of a luxury magazine and held myself to such high standards that I could never allow myself to be wrong, to be out of control, or to be truly free,” she recalled. But on the day she told herself those magic words – “I forgive myself” – Christina realized she was able to access her intuition, her imagination, and her connection to the world around her.

Intuition is never wrong, but it plays a long game. So you may think you’re wrong, that you’re a fool for believing something, but one later down the line, you will understand that your intuition was leading you somewhere you didn’t know yet.”

The guidebook of Mali Mali Home
Mali Mali Home comes with a guidebook to help interpret the cards | Courtesy of Christina Ko

Christina also imparted that despite the misconception of “psychic powers," humans aren’t necessarily meant to know the future in great detail.

“Anything that we see [through oracle or tarot readings] represents the most likely reality based on all of the intentions, decisions, and circumstances of right now. And the reason that this reality is being presented to you in a reading is so that you can decide if that’s what you want. And if you don’t, you simply set your intention to change course, and it is done. Ultimately, I believe in free will, and I encourage my customers to as well,” she said.

Now, as Christina continues to grow the community of Good Peoples, she’s letting her intuition lead the way.

“I’m a one-person business and I’m also about to launch a new channeled energy healing session that works through the chakras to clear emotional blockages and physical issues,” she revealed.

“Ultimately, everything I do at Good Peoples is held together by the twin themes of wellness and creativity. So whatever comes out of 2025, it will be fresh, new, wild, and fun – because my perspective is that life and healing should be a good time," Christina concluded.

Avail of the Mali Mali Home oracle deck through the Good Peoples website. To learn more, you may also visit their Instagram.

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